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	September 2003				At the the launch of the revised edition of No Time to Say Goodbye. Carey Denholm (left) with Paul and Rosanne Arnott and their family
		Launch of Paul Arnott's book - No Time to Say Goodbye by Janine Stewart
			The title says it all. This best-selling book deals comprehensively with the trauma of the sudden and unexpected death of a child, but has relevance to all who have suddenly lost someone they loved. The difficult questions of faith that such deaths raise, are tackled with honesty and humility. However the book is broad enough to be useful to people facing any of the grief situations that are part of life today, including unemployment, children leaving home and divorce. Paul Arnott wrote this book shortly after he had found his nine week old son dead in his cot. He has revised the book, and this new edition was launched on the 6th of August by Dr Carey Denholm, Associate Professor of Education at the University of Tasmania. Dr Denholm, a child psychologist and an experienced counsellor, recommended this book as being both 'useful and practical.' He thanked Paul for writing so candidly 'as a father of a son'. Update The raw grief Paul and his wife Rosanne and daughter Alice felt at the time of James's death still comes through strongly in this revised edition. Paul felt 'that there was a need for a revised edition because in the eleven years since the first edition I have learned a great deal, in parish ministry and in leading a number of grief support groups and seminars. There was also a need to update the section on SIDS in light of new research… I have written an entirely new chapter on men, women and grief, in which I explain that, in the same way as there are different personality types, there are different grieving styles.' Commendations It says much about the relevance of this topic today, and the fact that so many have already found the book helpful, that about eighty people attended the launch of this revised edition at the CMS Centre in Melbourne. Among the commendations Paul has received for his book are one from Phillip Adams who says that the book 'is immensely valuable to those who are enduring the death of a child', and one from the Sydney Diocesan paper Southern Cross which said: 'No-one should who has suffered the unexpected loss of a child, or who provides support for those who have, should be without this book'.